Reflection: When I speak and write about granting our selves and each other permission to pause, many people grasp the idea in quick order. They can see that there’s a strong case for renewal and re-energizing in the face of overwhelming demands. It makes sense on an intellectual level.
But, that message doesn’t always make it from the brain to the gut – where so many of our decisions and choices are actually made. As a result, the idea literally does not sit well with us.
Now, as you know, it is possible to force yourself to sit down for a moment to catch your breath and take a break. But how often does that rest take the form of a tentative perch on the edge of your seat, burdens still at hand, muscles tensed to lift off again at a moment’s notice, brain on high alert?
That’s not much of a break especially when compared to option B. You drop into a chair and drop into the moment. You let your body be surrounded and supported, relax your muscles, set your burdens aside, and tell your brain to take a hike.
It’s the same 30-60-90 seconds, but it’s a significantly difference experience.
Action: The next time you sense you need to step back for a few moments, pay close attention to your approach.
Drop down. Sink in. Let go. Breathe deep.
Soak up the support. Know that in your temporary absence the world will continue to spin on its axis.
We may be responsible for a great many things, but that doesn’t mean we have to be on duty and on guard every single blessed moment of the day.
Quotes Of The Week: Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. – Chinese Proverb
Every now and then go away and have a little relaxation. To remain constantly at work will diminish your judgment. Leonardo da Vinci
If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath. – Amit Ray
Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax. – Bryant McGill
Relaxation is the art of letting go. Dan Brule
Resource Of The Week: You might find some strategies in this article of interest: Ten Relaxation Techniques That Zap Stress Fast.
Readers Write: Thanks for these reader responses to last week’s message, Need A Real Alignment.
SM writes: Great post. It reminded me of one of the questions posed in the Crucial Conversations workshop: “What am I pretending not to notice about my role in the problem?”
I find that this question helps me to reflect on my behaviour and its possible consequences and impact on others.
ZT writes: This was one of your best newsletters ever. I found ‘aha/oh yeah’ statements in every paragraph as well as in the Resource of the Week. These are painful truths. They are hard to admit about our selves, but that is the whole point I suppose.
I was especially interested in the research that says that most people think it is rude to text while you are meeting with them. I thought it was just me and that I needed to get with the times.