Here are a few excerpts from reader replies to the recent Pause Blog Posting: It’s All Good – Or Is It ? The message generated some strong feelings and thoughtful responses.
MS writes: ‘It’s all good’, I found that thought provoking. I do use that term but not at the times you describe. I find I use it when things in my life are busy but overall good. I find when things are stressful that the words I say to myself and others to get through is “this too shall pass”. This reminds me that although things are stressful now, they will get better and they will improve. I need this reminder to be patient, to try not to worry too much and to keep positive.
PJ writes: I’m glad you brought up this phrase “It’s all good”. When people say this, they are either trying to present a brave front or they are just avoiding being real. For me, this phrase has become far too common, and has progressed to the category of irritant. It’s not even sincere, because, let’s face it: it’s NOT all good. Life has its difficult moments. If people want to share the realities of their life with me, I would far rather hear them say something like, “I’ve been going through a rough patch, but doing my best to handle things.” – rather than toss off some glib little catch phrase. It’s a bit of a pet peeve for me. And you are right in advising people to examine what’s really going on when they use this line as a constant mantra.
CW writes: Sometimes people have to have an honest cup of coffee with themselves. You talk about conviction and positive thought. These are things I live by also. No one can ever be sure that the outcome will be positive but as entrepreneurs that’s what we thrive on. We are risk takers. Sometimes we are so deep in issues and stress that we can’t see the forest through the trees. I’ve been in a coaching program since 1991 where we get a 30,000 foot view on our life personally and professionally every 90 days. It’s a process that helps prevent melt downs and focuses on progress not perfection.
LC writes: Maybe after all is said and done, it is all good or at least we can say that there is great goodness that shows itself in the love and care of family friends and neighbours, even in times of darkness and despair.
JM writes: I thought I was the only one who considered “it’s all good” to be an over simplified, annoying cliché.
CB writes: This was the helpful line for me today: “Are chronic problems going untended?” The word “chronic” evokes thoughts of health for me and hit home.
LC2 writes: I tend to go with ‘everything happens for a reason’ or God never closes a door without opening a window, but you still have to keep looking up’ rather than thinking it is all GOOD. There are just some things that I cannot see as good no matter how I sugar-coat them.
RB writes: I share your concern for your friends. A lot of things have the potential for being good. But too much of a “good thing” is not necessarily good. It can be downright disastrous, for business, health, friends, and family.
Feel free to add your thoughts in response.