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PAUSE – 9.22 – Calm

REFLECTION: Where do you rate on the worry scale? Do you suffer from a rotating series of ‘Worries Of The Day’?  And, if so, how well is that practice serving you?

Do your worries keep you engaged in life? Help you feel needed? Feed the illusion of averting potential disaster?

Or are your worries simply too much to handle? Sending your blood pressure soaring? Interfering with a good night’s rest? Keeping you from enjoying what’s good in your life?

Life happens but worry is optional.

ACTION: If you’re looking for a way to deal with some of the worries in your life, worry management expert, Denise Marek, offers a four step approach to create CALM and bring worry under control:

C – Challenge your assumptions

A – Act to control the controllable

L – Let go of the uncontrollable

M – Master your mind (Guard against negative thinking. Move from worrier to warrior.)

The next time a full blown worry springs to life, give it the CALM treatment and see if you can find some freedom from the furor.

QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “Keep calm & carry on.” – Succint advice from one of a series of 1939 morale-boosting posters commissioned by the British government. Read the back story and see the image at:

RESOURCE OF THE WEEK: Calm: A Proven Four-Step Process Designed Specifically for Women Who Worry”  by Denise Marek, Hay House, 2006.

READERS WRITE: In response to the last Pause e-zine, A Great Question, reader DG writes: “Great questions are interesting!  Answers – some times we don’t like them. Those are usually the times we need the answers the most.”

Life Balance, Life in General, Overload & Overwhelm, Pause E-zines

2 Responses to “PAUSE – 9.22 – Calm”

  1. Rose Brewster

    I never thought of myself as a worrier – at least to the extreme. I’m concerned about things but I do most of the 4 steps described. Something that read recently put it in a better perspective for me. It went something like this: “Worry is an exaggerated sense of responsibility.”
    Love your articles.
    Thank you,

  2. gerald cardoza

    What is controllable or uncontrollable so far as it arises cannot be thrown out of you. As the saying goes, it will haunt you till you go to the grave.

    Conflict,the cause of worriness, is not the shirt that wore you can change as and when you wish. Many have given remedies, methods and magic portions – all these don’t work, and if at all it does, its only temporary and superficial like a drop of chill water on your skin.

    So how do we overcome the conflict/worriness? Sometimes the so called solution is right under our nose but we don’t see it – I call it space, and thats where I look for my answers.

    There is no methodology,no steps but only understanding relationships-wholesome and in totality. So, stop describing it, stop controlling it or uncontrol it, but just see it. When I used this ‘method’ I quit smoking within 24 hours. Today it has been 20 years.

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