Reflection: I’m worried about us. Not in a global warming, political upheaval, where is the world headed kind of way. But rather in a very specific ‘why don’t we choose to be more present’ sort of way.
While facilitating recent seminars, I’ve noted – and not for the first time – that as soon as there is a pause in the program the majority of people seem compelled to plug their phones into the gap.
Like the fictional Dutch boy who stuck his finger in the dike, today’s smartphones serve as the first line of defense against potential threats like these: a moment of down time, the possibility of original thought, and the risk of actually connecting with a live person positioned within arm’s reach.
While answering email, returning texts, scanning Facebook, and checking news feeds may give the illusion of connectedness, I propose that the opposite may also be true.
Instead of enhancing connection, this habitual behavior insulates us from the moment at hand, distances us from creative thought, and diminishes the likelihood of meaningful live conversation.
Our ‘reach for the phone’ knee-jerk habits actually keep us reacting and retorting and stop us from reflecting and relating.
Action: Here’s a challenge for today – and for tomorrow, too.
For a specific length of time (and do make it longer than 10 seconds) consciously choose to put your phone on ice.
Place it out of sight and out of reach.
Be in the moment. Be with yourself. Be with each other.
Who knows what amazing things may happen!
Quotes Of The Week: My inbox is full but my life is empty. – S Tuominen
Attention is the most powerful tool of the human spirit. – Linda Stone
If you don’t like being with yourself, how can you expect others to like being with you? – Guy Kawasaki
Resource Of The Week: Here is a helpful article by Guy Kawasaki titled Let’s Stop the Glorification Of Busy. It features ten tips from Arianna Huffington’s new book, ‘Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success & Creating a Life of Well-being, Wisdom, and Wonder’.